What is coaching?

Coaching for transformation and growth

Do you feel like you are racing, struggling to enjoy life or caught in repeating patterns? Together we can take stock, and with evidence-based techniques, you can create lasting change in how you live your life. Working with a coach helps you see things you have become an expert at avoiding.

Like a sports coach brings a player to the next level, working with me as your life coach will allow you to up-level your life and make your dreams a reality.

You can replace [MINDFULNESS] here with a combination of any number of things: speaking to a coach, therapy, journaling or writing a diary, a self-coaching practice. There are a lot of ways into becoming observers of our thoughts. Becoming aware of
You can replace [MINDFULNESS] here with a combination of any number of things: speaking to a coach, therapy, journaling or writing a diary, a self-coaching practice. There are a lot of ways into becoming observers of our thoughts. Becoming aware of our thoughts is the first step towards bringing intention into what we believe and not being powerlessly governed by our automatic, negative and/or unhelpful thoughts. Mindfulness can be brilliant but if you are new to noticing your thoughts, it can be overwhelming: like jumping into the deep end of the pool without swimming lessons. For me, an active process is more helpful. Writing my thoughts down in an un-judgemental and honest way helps me see what is going on in my brain. Then I can start looking at what those thoughts are making me feel. When I feel that way, what do I do? When I reach blocks, I bring my thoughts and feelings to a skilled coach who can ask powerful questions to help work out what is happening in my brain, and what thoughts are not serving me. If we want to change something in the way we behave, in what we DO in our lives - then the first place to look is our thoughts. Especially if we’ve tried and struggled to change a behaviour (e.g. procrastination, habits, how we relate to people around us) already. Getting curious about your thoughts will open the door to realising you do not have to be defined by your thoughts. Your behaviour does not have to be controlled by your thoughts. You can take ownership of what happens next and how you respond to whatever situation you find yourself in. Whatever you do as a way into noticing your thoughts, I hope that you can deliberately decide that you will be compassionate and kind to yourself - just as you would be to a child you’ve only just met - whatever thoughts you find there. 🫶 👉 link in my bio to book a free discovery coaching call. . . . . . #coaching #mindfullness #motivationalquotes #selfhelp #selfimprovement #flowstate #procrastination #selflove
It is so much easier to see this in other people than to recognise it in ourselves. We get used to our own familiar, “comfortable” ways of suffering. It becomes normal - we think that it is a normal part of existing. If you can take a step back, have a pause from the routine, day-to-day life you might notice how some of your suffering is optional. Suffering that you thought was inevitable is actually very avoidable. You might even be creating the suffering for yourself, and don’t realise because it has become a habit. It has become normal. It might bring in a new form of suffering to get out of the state your in. Like the pain of a break up to get out of an unhappy relationship. The indecision, time, effort and rejection of applying for a new job or retraining/upskilling yourself might seem harder than the comfortable boredom of your job. Doing something that disappoints someone else, so that you can stop disappointing yourself. Follow @drmaevconneely for more.
Little bit wild if you think about it too long. 🤯🧠🧐 The main messages I got from reading Byron Katie’s work are: 1: You don’t have to believe your thoughts. Actually, your thoughts are often completely divorced from reality and they
Little bit wild if you think about it too long. 🤯🧠🧐 The main messages I got from reading Byron Katie’s work are: 1: You don’t have to believe your thoughts. Actually, your thoughts are often completely divorced from reality and they have deeply unhelpful repercussions in your life, and on your feelings and the way you behave. If you are trying to change a behaviour or become the next version of yourself, the way you’ll do that is by letting go of old thoughts and stories, and starting to believe new thoughts about yourself and your abilities. 2: Your thoughts are not your fault. We get thoughts pop up we might not like and we have very little (or no) control over what shows up. We can decide what we do about our thoughts, and whether we believe them, but trying to control them or stop them doesn’t work. Some of our thoughts come from the ways we were brought up and the systems around us, that are unfortunately and yet inevitably (to different extents): sexist, racist, homophobic (etc.) It makes sense that sometimes we don’t like the things our brain tells us - and that doesn’t mean we need to be filled with shame. Noticing your thoughts, questioning them, and interrogating them, is how you will shift and let go of the thoughts you don’t agree with and don’t want to bring forward with you. Follow @drmaevconneely for more and check out my website to learn about coaching and how to let go of your unhelpful stories about yourself (link in description). . . . #coaching #selfhelp #inquiry #meditation #byronkatie #quotes #motivation #change #thekindnessmethod
Doing new things is scary. Our brains do not want to do things that are new, unfamiliar. It feels dangerous and our brains evolved to stop us from doing things that feel dangerous. But never doing anything that makes you uncomfortable will keep you stuck. Half-living. The end of your comfort zone is where new things are created and where transformation happens. How can you tell the difference between discomfort that is unpleasant and not leading anywhere, and the discomfort that is the path to you becoming who you want to be? Find out with coaching. Book a free discovery call now at https://www.drmaevconneely.com/book-a-class ➡️ follow @drmaevconneely for more. . . . . . #coaching #lifecoaching #freelifecoaching #learning #lifecoachschool #unfuckyourbrain #thework #procrastination #behaviourchange #thekindnessmethod
Brilliant words about self-love and loving others from Kara Lowentheil on her Love Hacks podcast series. She speaks about how we hold ourselves back from loving ourselves - or even begrudgingly accepting ourselves - out of a fear that we will become arrogant or self-obsessed. Loving, and accepting ourselves, actually does the opposite. It gives us a break from thinking about what is wrong with us. What we should have done differently, how we should be better. All that time and energy we spend chastising ourselves, or being subtly self-critical, can be put into something else. Imagine, for a moment, what all that time and effort could be used for instead. Would you create beautiful paintings? Or accept, love and hold space for the people in your life? Would you put the time into working on the causes you care about? And maybe actually give space to enjoying life? On this Valentine’s Day, give yourself some love for how you are right now. Not how you could be in the future. I’m not talking about a conditional love, if you “do everything right”. Give yourselves unconditional acceptance and love, that is totally independent of what you do or achieve. Just for today, give it a go, to see what it feels like. 🤍🤍🤍 ❤️❤️❤️ ❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹 #karalowentheil #unfuckyourbrain #selfhelp #motivationalquote #selfdevelopment #mentalhealthpodcast #mentalhealth #valentines #selflove #selflovequotes #selfcriticism #perfectionism
It can be hard to be honest with ourselves about what we are doing. What we are not doing. What is happening around us while we are rushing, keeping all the plates spinning while also running on a treadmill. It can seem impossible to pause. To take a breath. To just a stop for a moment. But that pause is needed. We can’t start changing things if we can’t face them first. #coaching #lifecoaching #calm #lifeadvice #procrastination #selfdevelopment #mindfulmoment
You can replace [MINDFULNESS] here with a combination of any number of things: speaking to a coach, therapy, journaling or writing a diary, a self-coaching practice. There are a lot of ways into becoming observers of our thoughts. Becoming aware of
It is so much easier to see this in other people than to recognise it in ourselves. We get used to our own familiar, “comfortable” ways of suffering. It becomes normal - we think that it is a normal part of existing. If you can take a s
Little bit wild if you think about it too long. 🤯🧠🧐 The main messages I got from reading Byron Katie’s work are: 1: You don’t have to believe your thoughts. Actually, your thoughts are often completely divorced from reality and they
Doing new things is scary. Our brains do not want to do things that are new, unfamiliar. It feels dangerous and our brains evolved to stop us from doing things that feel dangerous. But never doing anything that makes you uncomfortable will keep yo
Brilliant words about self-love and loving others from Kara Lowentheil on her Love Hacks podcast series. She speaks about how we hold ourselves back from loving ourselves - or even begrudgingly accepting ourselves - out of a fear that we will become
It can be hard to be honest with ourselves about what we are doing. What we are not doing. What is happening around us while we are rushing, keeping all the plates spinning while also running on a treadmill. It can seem impossible to pause. To ta
 

“People have a hard time letting go of their suffering. Out of a fear of the unknown, they prefer suffering that is familiar.”

— Thich Nhat Hanh